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Confidence vs. Self Esteem: The Keys To Having Healthy and Satisfying Relationships
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Proving It to Ourselves vs. Approval from Others
Trying to prove how good we are, trying to prove we’re good enough, trying to show someone how much he or she has hurt us, trying to show someone we’re understanding, are warning signs that we may be into our self-defeating behaviors. They can be an indication that we are trying to control someone. They can be an indication that we are not believing how good we are, that we’re good enough, that someone is hurting us. They can be a warning that we’ve allowed ourselves to get hooked into a dysfunctional system. They may indicate that we’re stuck in that cloudy fog of denial or doing something that is not good for us. Trying excessively to make a point with another may mean that we have not yet made that point with ourselves. Once we make that point with ourselves, once we understand, we will know what to do. The issue is not about others understanding and taking us seriously. The issue is not about others believing we’re good and good enough. The issue is not about others seeing and believing how responsible or loving or competent we are. The issue is not about whether others realize how deeply we are feeling a particular feeling. We are the ones that need to see the light. -Melody Beattie – The Language of Letting GoThe more we want approval from others, the less we get it. Living a life that is not you for the sake of pleasing others, leads to anger, resentment, and misery. It can literally make people ill. Focus on your life, what works, where your passions lie and creating a life that feels successful to you. Your confidence, peace of mind, health and happiness are what matters. Do it for you. Ironically, it is your success and happiness that will be attract others to you. This concept is essential for overcoming co-dependency, decreasing shame and guilt, increasing self-esteem and improving marriage and intimate relationships. It is often a core concept that when not understood or overcome, contributes to the pain underlying many addictions. I share it regularly in Individual Therapy and Marriage Counseling. Once fully understood and applied, it contributes living with serenity, peace of mind, supportive relationships and overall happiness. Contact Denise O’Doherty for more details on overcoming self-defeating or co-dependency issues, contact Denise HERE.
Older Men Who Date Younger Women And How It Affects Your Children
Tell Me About Your Experience
As a Marriage and Family therapist, I believe this is a situation that has potential to come up more and more in individual therapy, couples therapy and family therapy. I believe it is particularly challenging for the adult children in this situation, and that they have a perspective that needs to be validated and heard. I would appreciate hearing your story/ feelings / concerns / experiences and how this topic has affected you, your situation, your life, your family.Contact me at 713-823-4001 or fill out the form below. I welcome your call so we can discuss your specific situation and the benefits therapy may provide for you.
New No-refusal DUI Enforcement Laws Are More Strict Than Ever
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5th Annual Texas Transgender Nondiscrimination Summit
- 1) look at strategic approaches to the issues of social justice and policy implementation regarding gender identity and gender expression and
- 2) to educate others on how to implement these inclusive policies in education, academia, medical settings, and other institutions.
Self Esteem: Tips on Building Self Esteem
- Self Esteem comes from accomplishments you have achieved that have meaning to you.
- Never give up your dreams to make others happy.
- You are the sum total of your choices. You can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond to what happens.
- Everyone has problems. Try to recognize the potential for growth in every situation.
- Someone else’s opinion of you is just that.
- You get treated in life the way you treat people to treat you.
- Set emotional boundaries that support you. You have the right to say “no”.
- You, and only you, are responsible for your life.
- Say positive, supportive, encouraging things to yourself.
- Your attitude determines how well you manage your challenges.
- The universe always says yes to what you believe.
- We form our future by the thoughts we think today.
- Know and accept your strengths and talents. Use them to grow into your full-potential, living a life with meaning and purpose.
- A high IQ, physical strength, beauty or achievements do not insure emotional health.
- It is healthy to love and nurture yourself before saying “yes” to others’ wishes or needs. It is important to balance giving and receiving.
- You are worthy of love and respect: it is not based upon what you do, but who you are.
- Self-Awareness is important to help you change and grow. You are always capable of learning new things.
- It empowers you to know your inner self. Your true self can direct your life, help you overcome negative conditioning and help you to live from a place of integrity, balance, and strength.
- When you love yourself, you are a mirror to help others love themselves.
- The purpose of life is a life of purpose. You feel purpose when you do what has meaning to you. Your passion about what you do is your gift. Purpose is connected to happiness.
- Success and happiness come from being connected to your authentic self and doing what is right for you – not doing what you think others expect from you.
- Worrying about your reputation is like saying others thoughts about you are more important than your own thoughts about you.
- Jealousy is putting your happiness in the hands of someone else. Self confident people don’t worry largely about jealousy because they know they are worthy of being loved.
- Having low self-esteem is a way of blocking love.
- Create your vision despite adversity.
- Try and make every interaction, an interaction of increase.
How Can I Help?
Rebuilding your self-esteem can take some time. In many cases, you do not realize the stressors in your life that may be adversely affecting your self-esteem. Together we can identify those topics in your life that need to be addressed to maintain a health sense of self worth.Contact me at 713-823-4001 or fill out the form below. I welcome your call so we can discuss your specific situation and the benefits therapy may provide for you.