LGBTQ issues may include, but not be limited to:
-Exploring your sexual identity
-Overcoming shame about romantic
and sexual feelings
-Fear of being discovered even in
situations where it’s safe to be out
-Getting tired of feeling like you have to overcompensate and work harder and be
perfectionistic to be accepted
-Not being able to tell family/ dealing with prejudice in your family
-Dealing with prejudice in your culture or religion
-Dealing with trauma, bullying, discrimination of you or a friend who is out
-Dealing with your own internalized homophobia
-Jealousy over heterosexual privilege
-Having to hide who you are because you’re a teacher or coach and work with
minors and fear people will scapegoat you
-Fear of having a profession where you minimize your personal life in fear of losing
Some Possible Lesbian Issues: Blending families, parenting issues, whether to have a child, In-vitro? IVF?, What if one partner does not want to have children? Dealing with a lack of sexual desire, or when one’s sex drive is higher than the partners. Dealing with menopause, monogamy (or not), or bed death.
Some Possible Gay Issues: Coming out to family members, coming out at work, promiscuity vs monogamy, open relationships, the role of porn in your relationship, sexual versatility (or not), dealing with ex’s, dealing with alcohol or substance abuse, what healthy sex means to you and how to communicate this to your partner, dealing with S&M and B&D, fetishes, eroticism, whether or not to take PrEP (Truvada), dealing with discrimination at your place or worship/ with your culture/ society in general. Coming out to your children, coming out to your wife, blending families.
Therapy provides a safe space to work out these issues and strengthen your identity as an individual or couple. A space where you can feel completely self-accepting, self-affirming, complete, and exuberant. Therapy is about overcoming oppression, self-abuse patterns, the need to overcompensate and replacing shame with healthy boundaries. Therapy is also about developing a healthy sexuality and a self-image where you value yourself. In addition it’s can improve your communication and intimacy so you can create the changes you want in your relationship.
I have worked with the LGBTQ community for over 25 years. My goal is to provide a safe space where we can work through your issues together and you can identify and integrate solutions that work best for you.
“Your Value Does Not Decrease Based On Someone’s Inability to See Your Worth”
Please see the next section titled “TRANSGENDER” for more about Transgender Issues.
Personal Boundaries & Effective Confrontation Workbook