Couples come to therapy for many reasons but most frequently for one or more of the following: better communication, more trust, more emotional intimacy or more sexual intimacy.
Often, during Couples Therapy one partner wants the other to have more empathy, compassion and a better understanding of their perspective. Sometimes people don’t feel safe asking for what they need or want in the relationship. Sometimes people ask for what they want but never seem to get it. Whatever the reason, couples often reach an impasse, unable to get the empathy and understanding they need from each other by themselves.
Statistics today identify the four predictors of divorce to be:
Criticism, Defensiveness, Withdrawal, and Contempt
By eliminating these adverse coping skills and replacing them with loving and effective skills and techniques, relationships improve. Trust, communication and a loving connection can be restored and re-established.
How Couples Therapy Can Help
Couples Therapy can provide lasting and positive results for couples to have increased satisfaction, and feel more love and connection in the relationship. Couples get faster results when both people are committed to making a positive change.
Therapy gives both people insights about what they want to see differently in themselves and what they want to see differently in their partner and the relationship. It focuses on discovering unmet needs, lost parts, and overcoming defensiveness that prevents intimacy. Houston Couples Therapy promotes insight to give you additional ways to perceive the problems and additional ways to get results.
Together we will:
- Identify the issues and conflicts that prevent intimacy and safety.
- Identify factors that you and your partner do to sabotage what you want
- Help you develop insights and skills to let go of what’s not working and get what you need.
- Use cutting edge communication skills and techniques to change counterproductive and upsetting behavior
- Look at how you can support each other effectively and genuinely through the changes you make
- Create a space where you reach a new level of success in your relationship
On the first visit of Couples Therapy, I usually ask the couple to come up with three responses to:
“This relationship would be better for me if……1)…. 2)….. 3)….. ”.
Most couples therapy strives to make a break-through rather than a breakup. The break-through can lead to increased intimacy, empathy, satisfaction, and love. Some people want to access if staying together is what they want. Therapy can help there too. If a couple chooses not to stay together, they often have more insight as to why things did not work out, a better understanding of each other, a clearer understanding of their own personal values and boundaries and are more aware of what they want for themselves in their future.
Additional Couples Therapy Resources
Personal Boundaries & Effective Confrontation Workbook